Polyamory in the News
. . . by Alan M.



March 26, 2016

An Israeli newspaper looks at poly


One flower, by Assaf Benharroch
The liberal Israeli newspaper Haaretz just ran a long think-piece titled Polyamory: A product of deprivation or the cure for a monogamous rut? The subheading:


Polyamory means 'a multiplicity of loves,' and its aim is to overcome monogamous routine without resorting to lies and cheating. Who are the people drawn to this practice, and why are women are the ones leading the charge?


The article, by Gabriel Bukobza, was public when I read it yesterday but now it's behind a paywall. It was long rumination (called a "thumb sucker" in the newspaper biz) based on the author meeting people in Israel's poly community. The author found two distinct branches of the community: fluid young people of evenly mixed gender, and an older cohort of marrieds in their 30s and 40s in which women stand out as leaders and advocates. Much like in North America and Europe.

The author ruminated further about how this way of life brings more love and community, and addresses the boxed-in staleness that's the fate of most married couples. But, she says (as I recall), it has a certain superficiality that's doesn't match long-term monogamy. This she ties to people having been deprived of secure bonds with their parents in childhood, or something. She's a psychologist.

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2 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

That's the weirdest. commentary on polyamory that I've seen in a very long time.

March 27, 2016 11:10 PM  
Anonymous Pinkie B said...

That's kind of a sad conclusion. I've been poly my whole life, but only really knew that about myself in recent years. I like to believe that my love runs deep and sincere. What could someone see in monogamy that is in any way better than that? I imagine the author is attempting to rationalize her own preference for monogamy.

March 29, 2016 5:43 AM  

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